Negging is a controversial technique in the seduction community that involves using insults to break down a woman’s self-esteem. The end goal, according to its practitioners, is to make the woman lower her standards so that she might be more likely to fall for the man who negs her.
The purpose of this guide is to:
Explain what negging is
Show you how and when you can use negging as a seduction tool
Help you avoid some of the pitfalls that come with negging
Negging in a Nutshell – Example
A very simple example of negging would be walking up to a girl in a bar and saying, “I’ll bet you get hit on all the time.” This statement contains three elements:
A compliment: “you’re attractive” – A lot of people think that negging is all about insulting women. While it’s true that an insult can work as a neg, it’s not necessary. You can also neg by giving genuine compliments, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t risks involved. More on this later.
Disqualification: “I’m not like other guys” – Neggers usually want to show that they’re different from other men. They want women to see them as
Negging is an indirect way to cause a woman to feel attracted to you. It’s also a way to break the barrier that often exists between men and women.
It’s similar to teasing, but with a focus on constructive criticism. Constructive criticism can either be positive or negative, but in this case, we’re focusing on the negative aspect of it.
Negs are generally observations of a woman that are typically true, but not something that she’d want others to point out. It’s a bit like poking fun at someone in a friendly manner, or calling them by a nickname based on some idiosyncrasy they have.
Negging is kind of like playing hard to get, but with the added element of constructive criticism thrown in for good measure.
For example: A pretty girl is standing at a bar alone. You approach her and say “Ugh! That top looks so cheap.” She’ll probably look taken aback at first and then laugh when she realizes you’re just teasing her. Or maybe she’ll say “Well I wasn’t expecting that!”
Here are some examples of negs you can use:
“That top you’re wearing is really awful.”
“I don’t think those pants suit you very well.” (This will work better
I saw a guy who appeared to be in his early twenties playing an accordion for money. It was about 11 PM on a Friday night, and I was hanging out with friends at the usual spot on Bloor Street. It was freezing out, but he wore a white tank top and had bright yellow suspenders on, so he definitely stood out.
He had a case in front of him where people could throw change, and there were plenty of people walking by, although most were just ignoring him. The only people who seemed to be listening to him were the two girls he was trying to impress.
It was pretty obvious that this guy was desperate, and that’s when it hit me: One of the biggest mistakes that men make is trying too hard to be liked. In order to get girls (or anyone else you want), you have to understand that you’re selling yourself like any other product on the market, and if you don’t seem like an attractive choice, people won’t pay attention to you.
I thought it would be fun to play a game where I tried to convince this guy of the error of his ways, pretending that I had some experience with women while trying not to laugh at the ridiculousness of what I was saying. So I walked
